Sexual Deceptions & Mis-Conceptions

This Month [July, 2013] is Marriage and Family Month at Faith Harvest Church. Even though my wife and I will be ministering the word of God on Sunday Mornings [11:00am] and during our midweek bible study [Thursdays, 7:00pm], I want to take this opportunity to deal with some lies the Devil has perpetrated concerning sex and relationships. I expect to make one to several posts per week during this month on this subject. My purpose is expose the deceptions and misconceptions concerning sex and relationships and to give a Godly or Bible-Based perspective.

SEXUAL DECEPTION & MIS-CONCEPTION #1: If I have sex with him, or give him a baby, he will love me or love me more! Sex is God’s idea and is intended only within the context of marriage between a man and a woman! I have noticed in recent years that the practice of sex outside of marriage is expressed and normalized by two terms: (1) Baby-Mama and (2) Baby-Daddy! Some women could care less about marriage or being truly loved by a man. Yet, there are many women who have fallen into this sin because of the weakness of the flesh and the desire to be loved! They bought into the lie that giving sex or having a baby will secure the love of a man. Even some married women have children because they think their husbands will love them more and treat them right if they have a baby. Let me give biblical perspective on this.

In Genesis Chapters 29 & 30, we read about the story of Jacob, Rachel and Leah. Jacob loved Rachel but was deceived by his uncle Laban into marrying Rachel’s older sister Leah. Jacob ended up serving Laban 21 years just so he could marry Rachel whom he loved! 21 YEARS! Leah conceived and gave Jacob a son called Reuben (Genesis 29:32). Leach concluded that Jacob would now love her because she bore him a son. She was wrong! After baring three sons to Jacob, Leah said “this time” my husband will be joined to me ( Genesis 29:34). How many times have women been deceived into thinking if they have a baby with a man he will love her, whether it be premarital sex (which is sin) or as husband and wife. Leah was so desperate for love that she gave her sons mandrakes (fruit) to Rachel for an opportunity to sleep with Jacob (Genesis 30:14-15). After giving birth to six sons for Jacob, Leah still hoped Jacob would love her more and live with her as his number-one wife!

Genesis 30:19-20, “And Leah conceived again, and bare Jacob the sixth son. And Leah said, God hath endued me with a good dowry; NOW WILL MY HUSBAND DWELL WITH ME, BECAUSE I HAVE BORN HIM SIX SONS [My emphasis]: and she called his name Zebulun.”

Again, how many times have women tried to use sex or having a baby to get a man to love them; love them more or marry them? Some women have had several children (with the same man or different men) in an attempt to secure love. Experience and the scriptures tells us this does not work! If a man does not love you before you have sex or a child by him, he will not love you after; no matter how much sex you give him or how many babies you have! He may [maybe…] love the baby, but it does not mean he will love you!

This post is not written to put anyone under condemnation. But rather to expose the sexual deceptions and misconceptions of the Devil and the World System. For those who have fallen prey to this lie, know that God loves you and your children! But for the countless number of young ladies who desire the love of a man, please take this as the wisdom of God and line your thinking and relationships up with the word of God.