SEXUAL DECEPTIONS & MIS-CONCEPTIONS #6

SEXUAL DECEPTION & MISCONCEPTION #6: You have not had sex until the penis has penetrated the vagina. Sometimes unmarried couples involved in sexual activity will try to get as close to the “sex line” as they can without crossing it [at least in their mind and definition of sex]! Because there has been no penetration of the male penis and female vagina, they figure they have not really had sex and have not sinned. Not only do these couples have misconceptions about the definition of sex, they are deceived into thinking they can get that close to their “sex line” and not end up crossing it! There is an old saying, “If you play around the creek bank long enough, eventually you are going to slip in!”

The truth of the matter is, their definition of sex is wrong medically, morally and spiritually. Their definition of sex, or rather their “sex line” is well into sexual sin territory! First, consider the “medical line” that defines sex: Any genital contact at all, whether hand to genital, mouth to genital, or genital to genital, is sex.  Some common street names for these genital contacts are hand job and blow job, etc. Many teens and adults involved in these activities have convinced themselves that they are not really having sex. If they were married though and their spouse came home and said, “Hi babe, I just had oral sex with a co-worker in the maintenance closet at work, but don’t worry, we didn’t really have sex because no penetration (with the penis) was involved,” I am very sure that spouse would receive an re-education on the definition of sex!

Secondly, from a moral and spiritual perspective, their “sex-line” is definitely a “sin-line!” The Bible, which is the word of God, clearly teaches that sex outside the boundary of marriage is immoral and sin. In fact, even when it comes to married couples, Jesus said if we look on a person with lust in our hearts, we have already committed adultery (sexual sin).

“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” – Matthew 5:27-28

Keep in mind now, from Jesus’ standpoint, “No one has touched no part of a person’s body,” yet they have committed sexual sin. How much more then is it true when married or unmarried couples actually do have genital contact outside of the marriage union! Sex is a physical expression of the commitment, trust, and interdependence that defines marriage. Get those “sex lines” back to where they are suppose to be – within the boundaries of marriage!